The Power of “No”: On Self-Love, Setting Boundaries, and Difficult Conversations

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The Power of “No”: On Self-Love, Setting Boundaries, and Difficult Conversations
with Ralph De La Rosa
Saturday, February 1st, 2020 | 10:00am – 5:00pm

“‘No’ is golden. ‘No’ is the kind of power the good witch wields. It’s the way whole, healthy, emotionally evolved people manage to have relationships with jackasses while limiting the amount of jackass in their lives.” -Cheryl Strayed

Generosity of heart can make it difficult to see the line between compassion and codependency. Saying “no;” disappointing others; communicating boundaries; and working with the guilt, shame, fear, and anger that’s often involved – these can be tough arenas for those of us who live to give. Yet, living authentically necessarily means we will need to make unpopular choices sometimes. In order for our compassion to be sustainable, we ourselves must be included in it, too.

Our patterns and difficulties in this area have the roots in deeper emotional experiences we’ve internalized. Learning to set limits is an integral aspect of healing self-work, trauma recovery, and self-love. Integrating the wisdom of Buddhism with trauma theory; somatic psychology; and the evidence-based “parts work” of Internal Family Systems therapy; this daylong is about learning to navigate such vulnerable conditions with clarity, intelligence, and grace.

The day will include periods of guided meditation and breathwork, lively talks and discussions/Q&A, and dyadic exercises. You will also receive a handout of printed materials. Please bring pen and paper.


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Ralph De La Rosa, LCSW

Ralph De La Rosa, LCSW is the author of the #1 best selling The Monkey Is the Messenger: Meditation & What Your Busy Mind Is Trying to Tell You. He is a trauma-focused psychotherapist in private practice in NYC and seasoned meditation instructor. He began practicing meditation in 1996 and has taught since 2008. He was a student of Amma’s (Mata Amritanandamayi) for 16 years and began studying Buddhism in 2005. His work has been featured in The New York Post, CNN, GQ, SELF, Women’s Health, and many other publications and podcasts. He regularly leads immersive healing retreats at Omega Institute, Spirit Rock, and Kripalu. Ralph himself is a depression, PTSD, and addiction survivor. His work isinspired by the tremendous transformation he has experienced through meditation, yoga, and therapy. He is currently traveling the world while he works on his second book.